5 ways to be more self aware
Hey Guys! So, this post came to mind when I was visiting my college roommate and we were going over old letters we had written to each other (yes, mailed letters). Back in those days self awareness and emotional intelligence weren’t even words in my vocabulary. I did not even recognize the girl writing these letters and while yes they were hilarious, they were also pretentious, self absorbed, and ethnocentrically driven.
I credit my graduate school program and probably my older age for waking me up inside and leaving that pretentious girl behind. While this isn’t an end all be all I thought I’d share some tips I’ve learned since then.
1. Shift Your Perspective
Back in the day, I was a die hard New Yorker and would not be caught dead living in the South. My college roommate always jokes about how I hated Kingsport, TN when I first visited, which is true and now it’s one of my favorite places. How did that come to be?
I shifted my perspective. I learned to appreciate the different culture, the scenic views, and the easy simply living pace, which vastly differed from New York pace. I think it is important to open your mind up and welcome in things that are different from your norm, you may just end up loving what you find.
2. Know Thy Self and Identifying Behaviors
This may be the most important tip, it comes from looking within and being more aware of your reactions.
What kind of behaviors do you default to when faced with situations such as conflict or change? How do people react when you show these behaviors? Are you always negative? Are you always on the defense? Do you get a temper?
Which behaviors do you default to and how can you make them more proactive than reactive.
3. Listening Without Interruption
This one I had learned from how to win friends and influence people, when someone is talking to you are you really actively listening? Are you thinking of what you’re going to say next and interrupting them or are you fully engaged? Can you recall what they said in conversation and add value?
This becomes particularly important when someone introduces themselves to you, remembering a first name is a powerful tool in likability.
4. Practicing Self Love self Thoughts and Goals
Do you practice self love thoughts or self hate talk that lowers your self confidence and brings negativity to your life and your behavior? Do you actively write down goals, collect your thoughts, and become aware of areas you need work on? These are all important in becoming self aware and for being happy and healthy.
5. Ask for feedback
Find yourself defaulting to old habits and behaviors or, not sure if you can tell how you’re being perceived by others? Ask for some constructive criticism from friends and co-workers.
There you have it! Those are my five tips for being more self aware. What are some things you practice to be more self aware? Leave it in the comments.